Misogynoir & Sexual Abuse in the African-American Community

by The Black Feminista on November 8, 2014 0 Comments

What is Misogynoir?

            Misogynoir is a term I discovered about two years ago after reading the blog Gradient Lair written by queer black feminist scholar Moya Bailey. She defines misogynoir as anti-black misogyny in which race and gender are entwined together to cause hatred of black women. Does misogynoir really exist? I think so. Misogyny is hatred and contempt for all women, whilst misogynoir is a particular and invasive hatred geared specifically towards black women and girls that is often perpetrated by black men and women. Misogynoir is why a known sexual predator like R. Kelly is embraced by the black community and why Janay Rice was blamed for being knocked unconscious on an elevator by her then fiancé, Ray Rice and subsequently dragged off the elevator by him cave man style.

            Misogynoir in the black community is a social problem that is having a devastating effect on relationships between ...

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The Real Deal About Life in the 1950s

by The Black Feminista on July 31, 2014 5 Comments

When looking back at past eras, the 1950s is looked upon by some as an idyllic time in American history. The nuclear family headed by a male breadwinner was the desired norm and televisions shows such as Father Knows Best and I Love Lucy were popular. However, there was a dark side to this lifestyle. Women were treated like second-class citizens and some were living unhappily married because their financial and educational options were limited and they were as dependant on their husbands as their children.

The media, in collusion with the government, and family sociologists constantly espoused the virtues of family and children and women, who wanted more out of life, were looked upon as freaks of nature. However, some women during 1950s expressed dissatisfaction with their lives and an unarticulated longing for a life beyond their children and husbands. Some of these wives were forced out the workforce ...

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The Matriarch

by The Black Feminista on June 15, 2014 0 Comments

I went over my cousin’s house recently and she gave me some pictures from back in the day. My goodness they brought back memories! I hadn’t seen these pictures in years and now I am thinking about the young girl I used to be, the girl in the pictures.

I see a beautiful young girl, with innocence shining in her eyes although this young girl was a mother of a baby girl two months old. This picture was taken July 4, 1987 and my daughter was born April 24, 1987. I was sixteen, to be seventeen November 20, 1970. And I was a teenage mother.

Now that baby girl is going to be a mommy! And I will be a grandmother. I want my grandbaby to call me Granny Kat. This might sound weird to some, but I am looking forward to becoming a grandmother. The continuation of ...

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Little Known Black History Fact

by The Black Feminista on February 28, 2014 0 Comments

Over the past few years, I have heard quite a few Black men pontificating on the Internet about how Black slave women enjoyed being the mistress of the plantation owner because they got special “privileges”.  Well close your eyes and think about this: Imagine being a 12-year-old Black girl who is given to the Master’s son to be his bed wench. Your parents do not have a choice because they are slaves. He can fuck you anytime he wants because you belong to him. When you get pregnant, he finds you a “husband” to play it off but continues to fuck you whenever he likes. Your husband hates your guts because he thinks you are used goods but he fucks you too when he gets an opportunity.  All of your children by the Master, except one (the son is the Master now because his father is dead) are sold ...

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Dear Brother

by The Black Feminista on February 7, 2014 1 Comment

The month of February seems to be a tough one for those who are in the throes of addiction.  Both Whitney Houston and Phillip Seymour Hoffman died in the month of February, Whitney succumbing on February 11, 2012 and Phillip losing his battle just this week on the 2nd of February.  My brother Randy also lost his battle with drugs in the month February.  Today would have been his 54th birthday. It is also the twentieth anniversary of his death. On February 7, 1994, Randy Leon Allen of Chicago, IL died of a heroin overdose. He had just turned thirty-four. He was an addict and had mentally and spiritually checked out from the moment he started using drugs and I miss him.

For many years I was angry at him for leaving me all alone. I have another brother but I am not as close to him as ...

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About The Black Feminista

Teenage mother of two children by age of 21. No GED until I was 27. Welfare recipient. Graduated from college at the age of 35. Mother to two grade school valedictorians, two high school graduates, a college graduate, and a future grade school valedictorian. Full time graduate student and working full time. Future grandmother to a Black grandson born to a mother who is the youngest manager of her company. Black woman. Working woman. Kicking stereotypes in the ass.