The Matriarch

by Kathy Henry on June 15, 2014 0 Comments

I went over my cousin’s house recently and she gave me some pictures from back in the day. My goodness they brought back memories! I hadn’t seen these pictures in years and now I am thinking about the young girl I used to be, the girl in the pictures.

I see a beautiful young girl, with innocence shining in her eyes although this young girl was a mother of a baby girl two months old. This picture was taken July 4, 1987 and my daughter was born April 24, 1987. I was sixteen, to be seventeen November 20, 1970. And I was a teenage mother.

Now that baby girl is going to be a mommy! And I will be a grandmother. I want my grandbaby to call me Granny Kat. This might sound weird to some, but I am looking forward to becoming a grandmother. The continuation of ...

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Little Known Black History Fact

by Kathy Henry on February 28, 2014 0 Comments

Over the past few years, I have heard quite a few Black men pontificating on the Internet about how Black slave women enjoyed being the mistress of the plantation owner because they got special “privileges”.  Well close your eyes and think about this: Imagine being a 12-year-old Black girl who is given to the Master’s son to be his bed wench. Your parents do not have a choice because they are slaves. He can fuck you anytime he wants because you belong to him. When you get pregnant, he finds you a “husband” to play it off but continues to fuck you whenever he likes. Your husband hates your guts because he thinks you are used goods but he fucks you too when he gets an opportunity.  All of your children by the Master, except one (the son is the Master now because his father is dead) are sold ...

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Dear Brother

by Kathy Henry on February 7, 2014 0 Comments

The month of February seems to be a tough one for those who are in the throes of addiction.  Both Whitney Houston and Phillip Seymour Hoffman died in the month of February, Whitney succumbing on February 11, 2012 and Phillip losing his battle just this week on the 2nd of February.  My brother Randy also lost his battle with drugs in the month February.  Today would have been his 54th birthday. It is also the twentieth anniversary of his death. On February 7, 1994, Randy Leon Allen of Chicago, IL died of a heroin overdose. He had just turned thirty-four. He was an addict and had mentally and spiritually checked out from the moment he started using drugs and I miss him.

For many years I was angry at him for leaving me all alone. I have another brother but I am not as close to him as ...

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Your Blackness is Not My Blackness So Please Stay in Your Lane

by Kathy Henry on January 25, 2014 0 Comments

The social media can be both a curse and a blessing. It is a blessing because you have the opportunity to read the viewpoints of millions of people. However, it is also a curse because very often, you are also exposed to the ignorant arrogance of people. Especially when it comes to defining “Blackness” because some Black folks have declared themselves The Keepers of All Things Black and will attempt to “school” you about how you are not Black enough for their “tastes”.  Let me explain.

Every couple of months, a blog written by some random Black person will come out complaining about how Black women should not like Marilyn Monroe and should only pay attention to Lena Horne or Dorothy Dandridge.  Or how pissed off  some Black men are about Black women having a variety of hairstyles they can choose from and accuse them of wanting to be White ...

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Life as a Former Welfare Recipient

by Kathy Henry on January 11, 2014 0 Comments

My story is a very complex one and I want to share it. When I was a little girl, everyone thought I was headed for great things. I was smart; I had read Gone With the Wind by the age of 11 and was poised to be that girl from the hood who went on college. But I was molested by my mother’s boyfriend from ages 11 to 15 and the molestation took a toll on my self-esteem.  I believed that I was a filthy whore and just did not give a fuck anymore.  Because of that shame, I became promiscuous and had two children by the age of 21. I did not receive my GED until I was 26 and my college degree until I was 35. Since making the decision to attend college, I have been trying to claw my way out of poverty for 11 years ...

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About The Black Feminista

I am a woman. I am Black. Belonging to two minorities has shaped my viewpoint on life in more ways than I can count. It is not easy being a woman in a inherently sexist society. Add race to the equation and you have me. This is my world and my viewpoint. You do not have to agree with my thoughts but in the end, you will respect me. And if you don't, who gives fuck?